By achieving higher and deeper levels of meditation through breathwork, higher states of awareness, calm and peace are achieved. Sometimes sustaining this for hours, and with consistent practice this can be maintained for periods of time until it becomes constant. Various types of meditative, yogic and breathing practices can be found in multiple cultures. To master control of self, guide your focus to your internal locus of control, heightening your state of awareness, peace and contentment. Now, in the midst of a hurricane – YOU are the eye of the storm. You have a front row seat to not just your life, but the lives around you.
When you stand in the eye of a hurricane, you experience a calm, a peace that can only be observed by others as poised, confident and serene. From this position, you see how the lives of your family and others swirl all around you. You see the good with the bad, the happy times and the sad times, the weddings and funerals, the additions of people, places and things that come and go. While you are in the eye, you see blips on the horizon that will definitely affect you. Plan ahead and make preparations to protect yourself and assets. Strategizing will make the transitions a bit smoother, however, the goal is to maintain peace in the valley that follows.
As the storm moves, upwards and sideways, you maintain homeostasis. As you feel the rain and heavy winds smashing into you, allow your body to flow easily through the transitions than to fight the inevitable. The storm has increased in power, and as it reaches peak intensity there are strong rain bands that begin moving toward the eye, weakening the system (Source: NY Times). As the storm evolves, you begin to sense that it is losing power as evidenced by the eye beginning to collapse on itself. You witness your life dissolving into chaos, yet you maintain tranquility. You are an observer, even when you find yourself affected by the storm. In other words, the storm is the consequences of another’s actions – things that are out of your control.
Some things have already started, some for years, others for months, the processes have been going on behind the scenes, things being set up in your favor, while others may rattle you, one even creating an inconvenience to purposely set you back. The smaller the eye, the more dangerous your position, as the storm is losing power and you suddenly find yourself on the precipice, either the edge of glory or the edge of insanity. Might as well jump!
Do you best to keep your head above water, and keep your eye singularly focused on transitioning from where you were to where you will be. This storm can come for a variety of reasons – to bring friendship, to allow reconciliation, to bring a job opportunity, to bring divine intervention, to bring a wrongdoer to justice, to heal you from past baggage or to clear your path of toxic relationships. Case in point – as you evolve, you are letting go of old constructs, beliefs about yourself, impressions that others left on you, ideals that society “said you should be…” Leaving the old you behind requires letting go of people, places and things that are no longer in your best interest. Let go of who or what is holding you back in your career, your friendships and business prospects, etc. When the storm has passed, your way is clear. You will feel so much better.
Forgiving others means letting go, walking away. It looks like ending a friendship, a marriage that has turned violent, a relationship you’ve grown out of that had deep roots, a mother-in-law purposely breaking up your marriage, a trauma bond. When the storm comes, you find out who had your back and who didn’t, and who pretended to support you. You see the two-faced friend, and the dreaded friend enemy. You find out that family were setting you up to fall, to stumble, because they didn’t want to see you succeed, past the point of their success. Take the good with the bad. The words, “harsh reality” plays like a broken record. It can be difficult to sleep at night once secrets have been exposed, the upcoming holidays painted a charcoal grey, interspersed with streaks of white. When you can’t stomach eating, let alone decorating for the holidays, remember, the storm is temporary; you discover where everyone stands and what you will no longer tolerate.
I know you are sad. I know you are unhappy. It’s a difficult situation. You are making the best of it for the time being. Know that while he is playing you, he is playing the other person, who will be devastated when his lies are exposed. Everyone will find out - his family, coworkers, friends at church and law enforcement. It is an extremely difficult place to be in and climb out of, no matter how strong your willpower.
Now, the veil has been lifted, the rain stopped and the fog has cleared. You see how you were fooled. One of the worst abuses is having a deep trusting connection, building a bond of trust, a lifelong connection with someone, only to be subject to a public flagrant display of haughtiness, the discard that leaves you reeling. Abruptly ending a relationship is not a peaceful process and can be unexpected, leaving you devastated. It will be proceeded by ignoring and/or ghosting all day for weeks to months. Evenings are met with the silent treatment. Any attempts at communication are met with blaming you for being the problem and the reason for the breakdown in the relationship. The above symptoms are part of the larger problem, in that they have found a new partner and have moved on without regard for the emotional impact on you. (Source: Simplypsychology).
The goal is that while you are not in control of what comes your way, you are in control of your reactions, whether to walk away, ignore or step away from a conversation. Know that your position as eye of the hurricane had been coming for a while. That’s what you can count on. It’s arrival is different for everyone. It comes at a time when you feel like you’re just getting your feet under you after a period of upheaval. Then something happens and its arrival changes everything.
The grand exodus of toxic people from your life will leave you breathless. However, you will be surprised at who comes out of the woodwork to support you – maybe people you don’t even know. The storm’s aftermath and its transition to a whole new world can serve as a reminder of the incredible healing that can occur as one embraces faith and believes that there is a reason that things happened the way they did.
The next goal is to keep your head above water, not allowing yourself to drown in the deep waters of negativity, spiraling downward into the abyss of rock bottom preventing you from moving forward. Over analysis can lead you to the basement of rock bottom. It is important to process the changes, the transitions, the pain of the past and present, however, it is also imperative that things are kept in perspective.
It may not be what you wanted, expected or even dreamed of, but there is a higher purpose and power out there preparing you for your next step in life. Small changes over time, lead to bigger transitions. To get you back on track, it is necessary to make changes, both big and small, and terrible, difficult decisions, but YOU have to do it. You may lose everything and everyone to get to the next phase, but it is the next step in your evolution. A tremendously difficult time for sure. It’s the type of situation in which a miracle may be needed and humbly requesting divine intervention.
PC: Elen11
